Self-Deception

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Most psychological experiments make me question the very need of the study. 

Do people lie to themselves? YES!

Do we know we do this? YES!

Is it beneficial? the jury is still out on that one.

here is a study that proves people lie to themselves. 

what this study suggests is that for many people self-deception is as easy as pie. Not only will many people happily lie to themselves if given a reason, but they will only look for evidence that confirms their comforting self-deception, and then totally believe in the lies they are telling themselves.

If you read the whole thing, I would bet you would agree that its not that bad as made out to be.sometimes telling yourself you can do more than you can actually do maybe good. maybe a little of that positive thinking is also lying.  the reality does not exist yet and you are trying to create it and talk about it as if it already is.

my final thing on this.  go ahead and lie to yourself if it succeeds in pushing you further, just don't fool yourself into thinking you never did lie! 



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Are you a 5-star Leader? Part 9/10

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by jessicaflavin

Do you delegate?

most brilliant people can do everything brilliantly if only they had the time.

but you dont.

so, brilliant as you are, you will be left with a lot to do, that you will never be able to do, just coz you dont have another 24 hours, everyday.

delegate.

find out the tasks that you do not enjoy, think someone else could do just as well, or just a little less and start delegating.

that is a start.

but if I could persuade you to, I would suggest you take a different approach.

find out, hunt for people better than you at things you do everyday and then delegate.

it is so much better!

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Are you a 5-star Leader? Part 8/10

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by MikeSchinkel

Do you encourage & accept feedback?

You might think the listening sessions are enough, but I beg to differ.

feedback could be structured or unstructured

feedback could be individual or group

feedback could be about you, your job, your decisions, the company or anything in between

feedback could be verbal, written

feedback could be internal or external

feedback could be managed by self or out-sourced

feedback could be face-to-face or anonymous

the feedback should have two attributes at the minimum:

- it should ask about what is important to the people

- it should ask about things you can do something about

feedback for the sake of feedback is useless

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Are you a 5-star Leader? Part 7/10

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by vagawi

DO you have formal/informal listening sessions?

The formal ones

- structure time

- space

- make sure there are no interruptions

- make sure there has been enough time to prepare for both parties

- ensure the time between two sessions is mapped

- ensure everyone is covered

- take notes

- give feedback

- if you can, do something. if you can't, let them know.

The informal ones

the informal listening sessions are probably the ones where you will pick up more non-verbal cues than the formal ones.

in the hall, at lunch, at a staff party, the gym.  it could be anywhere.

Just two inputs here:

1. be willing to listen

2. be willing to stop when it turns gossipy!

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What is the nicest thing you have done for someone?

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You will probably begin by searching for the big ones.
did you in your past somewhere do something so extra ordinary that it became a life-long memory for someone else?

I was doing the same thinking and I can assure you, at one point it became an exercise in massaging my ego.

come to think of it, I have rushed someone hit by a car to the hospital, I have helped out complete strangers, I have fed, clothed (not bathed) people, and generally I have been nice.

Its when I reverse the thinking, that the question comes alive in all its splendor.

Think about what nice things people did for you and suddenly the big ones dont jump that much.
its the small ones that make the cut and make me smile.

here are some of those:
- I was told by my high school teacher, I could do whatever I want. And to prove he meant it, he let me sit in Biology classes when I wasn't even taking Bio for my boards.

- I was riding around Goa with a friend and the bike ran out of fuel. a stranger stopped. gave us a litre from his tank, refused to accept any money and parted with the words 'Enjoy Goa'.

- I was loaned money by my friend regularly. But sometimes, I would even loan his bike, his shirt and his phone. All on the same day! nice guy.

- I was so angry at shoddy treatment and this employee stood there with his hands folded, apologizing from his heart and doing everything to make things right.

- my friend's mom making hot paranthas (indian pizza!) in the middle of the night. No restaurants and me, very hungry.

- A student's parent bringing me fresh milk from his farm.

- An ex, writing a long letter letting me know what is it that makes me lovable and what makes people want to strangle me. incase you wondering, yes I still have it even after 12 yrs I refer to it regularly.
You will be amazed how some people know you so well.

Here's my two cents.

- make a list of all the nice things people have done for you

- make a list of all the nice things you have done for people.

Strike a balance!




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Are you a 5-star Leader? Part 6/10

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by Eneas

Do you work alongside with your team members?

the best ones get their hands dirty.  they fold their shirt sleeves and heave when the entire crew is just that close to the goal and needs just a little bit more.

working alongside, packaging, marketing, making sales calls, handling difficult customers, cleaning the office , anything is a big boost!

people do remember the kind words, the little gestures, but legendary stories of managers come from incidents when they were one-of-us! 

a 5-star leader wouldn't think twice about it.

work alongside your team.

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